Why does it matter that what you believe is not a true, indisputable fact?

How can a belief keep you from achieving the results you want in your life?

Belief (your recurring thought): It is not possible to lose weight after menopause. 

How many times have you thought that? I was certain this was true – I completely believed/thought that was true – until I didn’t anymore and I lost 65 pounds at age 65. I now weight 138 pounds and have the most amazing life ever! The indisputable fact was that I weighed over 200 pounds at 5’4”.

C — Circumstances are facts and are indisputable

T — Thoughts are a result of how an individual interprets each fact or circumstance. 

F — Thoughts generate a feeling – positive or negative

A — Actions (or lack of actions) are generated by feelings

R — Actions determine results (positive or negative) 

C (Circumstance/fact): Scale says 200 pounds; age = 64

T (Thought): It is not possible to lose 65 pounds as a post menopausal woman

F (Feeling): Resigned

A (Actions or inactions): Don’t even make a plan for eating; continue to use food as a means of feeling ‘better’; hate yourself

R (Result): Continue to weight 200 pounds

Now, let’s try an Intentional Model:

C: Scale says 200 pounds; age = 64; height 5’4”

T: I will weigh 138 pounds

F: Determined/Committed

A: Develop a formal eating plan for me; journal my thoughts; plan my food 24 hours in advance; do the thought work necessary to realize that I am worthy of this work; be curious about slips; keep going

R: I weigh 138 pounds